Coping with the Loss of a Loved One
Help in dealing with loss—
There are no time constraints on grief—and despite well meaning comments and tips and “This is what I did” from friends and family, each of us faces grief in our own way. Included here are some sources of guidance, with different interpretations of the stages of grief, which may be completely unfamiliar and unrelated to what you're feeling—or reflect in some way your own emotions. Whether you need support on coping or want some comfort as you simply learn to live with it—here are some general official (in the main) and not-for-profit sites that feature articles and insights that may be of help to you at this time.
We all grieve differently—there is no right way. The many well meaning comments about closure and moving on with your life and isn't it time to let go that tend to be bandied about by friends and others who may not be sure of how to approach you or the topic, but want to show their friendship and support—can be safely ignored, after you've said thanks for their words of compassion. There is no time limit on grief. It takes however long you need and, for some, it takes forever—grief feels as fresh and sad each day as it did the first day.
Connections—Understanding the Grieving Process
They point out that, while grief is most commonly associated with the loss of a loved one,— “any loss can cause grief, including the loss of a relationship, your health, your job, or a cherished dream.”
They also provide guidance on providing support to a grieving person and helping others through loss and bereavement and information on understanding the grieving process— Supporting a Grieving Person.
The Five Stages of Grief—Coping with a Loved One's Terminal Illness (a collaboration re HelpGuide and Harvard Medical School) examines and provides advice on many aspects. Included are the facts that “lingering terminal illnesses are becoming more common than sudden death” and that the stages of the process affect the individual and the family.
A variety of publications and downloadable PDFs on related topics, including caregiving, what to expect and plan for, bereavement, and many specifics to help day-to-day and in planning/can be found at no charge from Victoria Hospice.
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